Browsing All posts tagged under »Gretchen Goetz«

Indefinite hiatus

February 5, 2014


Years ago, when I was a girl of 9 or 10, I accidentally slammed my fingers in the car door. It hurt – a lot. I wailed. My Uncle Bill (who has never been good, like many people, at seeing someone he loves in pain) was there and, after a moment or two, when my […]

First meeting: menu

January 7, 2014


So: I gave DK my address and he came, armed with lunch – sort of. More like a picnic, which is how we ended up eating it anyway. I never thought about it at the time, but he didn’t ask what sort of food I liked or if I was vegetarian or had food allergies […]

I peeled bits of straw

January 5, 2014


To read or be read to by a love in a sensual setting was a private desire I had held close for most of my adult life. I don’t mean reading snippets of Dave Barry’s column loud enough so my partner can hear them and guffaw in response from the bathroom. Or to be sitting […]

The unexamined life

December 27, 2013


“The unexamined life is not worth living.” So said Socrates, via Plato. And oh, there is much todo over the meaning of this philosophical nugget, even now, so many centuries after it was first uttered. (Disclaimer: I have not yet read Plato’s Apology in full.) They all interest, but don’t unduly concern, me. For me, it […]

crazy-making #1

December 6, 2013


Text from DK the night before Valentine’s Day, 2012: Received: Mon Feb 13 00:53:45 CST 2012:  Tonight would be a good night to sleep together. I cannot count how many times he texted me similar sentiments but would pull back if I said, “Okay then!” Of course I didn’t know at the time he had […]

on Joy and Sorrow

December 5, 2013


I am sometimes filled with so much sadness when I think of DK and the losses I associate with having known him. And yet, the sorrow seems buffered now, as if wrapped in cotton wool. I know that is my psyche protecting me but I’m not sure it’s the best method of defense. There were […]

Gaze long

December 4, 2013


He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you.  – Friedrich Nietzsche I must try harder to find my way to forgiveness before I have gazed too long. Not for DK; a person […]